Every day I do a Facebook post of the day and today the post turned into a much longer inspiration, enjoy my friends!
When we are faced with challenges we HAVE to remember that we are being fine tuned to a better version of ourselves, it's life trying to show us what needs to be addressed so that we can live a better life.
We all have stress, we all have loads of things on our plate, and we all make decisions each and every day, the question becomes are you going to finally stop making the same choices and start making different ones so the results you are getting will finally change.
Getting angry solves nothing, I repeat nothing (well maybe comforts the ego).
But stepping aside yourself and truly deciding to actually do some work, get out the duster an start addressing old issues, and resolving lingering concerns, you find that the freedoms: financially, socially, materially, and personally, and even spiritually may start to be resolved, or solutions begin to arise.
I look out around me and see many (myself included) banging at the same doors over and over again hoping for different results, and after a while you notice the patterns of them not getting what they want and the unwillingness to listen for guidance and help weather from you, a wise elder or even God.
We often think that we are working hard, doing all we can, but maybe we are working too hard in areas that are not necessary for us to work in, our efforts are actually being wasted. And what I have noticed is we often throw ourselves into projects as distractions from the situations that need real attention. We will ridicule others and their choices as we continually make poor ones as well.
I like to think to myself that if I knew so much better, and that my plan and process were so much better, that then I would not be in the predicament, or have the worry, fear, or anger I have right now then. Right?
So today I am inspired to pose to you the question "can you stop for a moment today and see what the real concern is"? "Can you take a moment and look out and look in and see that the only person that can make things better is you".
We can blame our boss, our spouse, our X-boyfriend, or X-wife, our lawyer, our banker, our babysitter, sister, mother, father, senator, governor, church, or even God for that matter. But how will putting all your energy into them help you? How will "they" really solve your problems without your support, with out you actually doing something? On a larger scale I believe this is part of America's problem today, and that those changes really do need to start with us.
Our attitude, our outlook, our beliefs, our efforts, our self-responsibility all come back to one very important thing. US....or....YOU!
Namaste my friends and be well and most important be yourself!
We have all been told to "just be yourself' and I have myself questioned what that means, and how to act on that. In this self reflection I have come up with a few things I'd like to share
1. Define your core values, what is important to you, and how you can act on that. Take a few moments or heck a few days and feel out and meditate on what is truly important to you, not just in the hype of the moment when you see someone doing something you too would like to do but, when you close your eyes what holds the greatest value for you. Is it family? Than ask yourself are you acting in a way that values family. Is it your relationship with your partner or your children, for you to be a good parent? Is it your social status and your job? Nothing is bad, just what is important to you?
2. What do you need to do, incorporate into your life or let go of to help add more value and action to you being you? For me, I know there are things I need to let go of and allow others to step up and do in order for me to truly be myself and follow my path, that me holding on is probably inhibiting those around me from reaching their potential and to be themselves as well. For me I know there are things I should be doing to help create balance in my life and allow me to accentuate the true me, but bad habits and ruts allow me to fall. Me being me is where I do what I need to do not based on others but based on me. And when I follow that honestly and truthfully, it is not selfish, but usually the opposite, it helps pave the way for others to be themselves in a non-harming and less self-absorbed way. Remember old habits and mindsets die hard.
3. Just say what you need to say. Not saying what you think or what you need to share is in the end going to eat you alive and also strain the relationships of those involved. Don’t think so? If I don’t share what is on my heart in a loving and honest way (being a forklift) then not only am I going to get eaten alive inside but all those involved are left in the dark and are too unable to change or see something differently which just might allow them to be a bit more true and authentic too.
4. Stop watching so much of others’ lives through social media. So much of what we see in today’s world is edited, cut and copied to draw the best crowd. And most of the time it leaves us feeling like how we are right now is just not good enough. Now don’t get me wrong seeing others work hard and achieve is very motivating, but much of what we expose ourselves to and our kids to is far from that. We do not always know what is going on behind closed doors, we do not know most peoples entire stories, but rather what we hear or see based on what a third party writes, edits or snaps in a photo. Stop now and ask yourself is who you are now based on you and your desires, your morals and your core values or what you see someone else achieving? What you see someone else accomplishing, what you see someone else working towards.
5. Be you for a day and own it! Yep, just for a day, work to authentically be you. Make choices based on what matters to you, now some may say that is selfish, but the difference between being selfish and taking care of the self is that you are not in the business of hurting others. When a person truly honors the self and acts in a truthful way others do not get hurt, and if at first their ego is bruised well then that is for them to deal with. So just for that 24 hour period test the waters on making choices and choosing activities and creating a healthy language that best serves you as a person.
Just because someone said you can’t do that, or you see someone achieving something a certain way does not mean that is the only way; it does not mean that you have to mimic those footsteps. One thing I am learning right now in my own life is how to not worry so much about how people will react to my choices, and how to honor my own inner desires and life calling, and knowing that when I do this, those around me will actually be more able to follow their own paths, desires and dreams. Because when you do you, others will be able to do the same.
So go out and make your own mold, be your own person, create your own beat and your own drum to play on. There are probably many people out there doing something similar to what you desire or are trying to achieve, but there is only one person equipped for the job of your destiny and that person is you!
(C) 1984 Saskia Davis, check out her amazing website for more infomation www.symptomsofinnerpeace.net (some of these symptoms are compliments of this website)
- A tendency to think & act spontaneously rather than from fear.
- An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
- Loss of interest in judging others.
- Loss of interest in judging yourself.
- Loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
- Loss of interest in conflict.
- Loss of interest in always being the best, and more interested in being.
- Loss of ability to worry (a very serious symptom)
- Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
- Feeling connected with others and with nature.
- Frequent attacks of smiling for no apparent reason at all.
- Increased tendency to let things happen, rather than make them happen.
- Increased susceptibility to giving and receiving love.
- Increased tendency to laugh at what life continues to offer you.
- An overwhelming feeling of thankfulness for people in your life that are difficult to feel grateful for.
- An overwhelming feeling of thankfulness for all the things you have been given.
- A deep understanding of living life rather than doing life.
Do you want to live a MindBodyGreen-style pregnancy? Here are six great tips to get you started:1. Think and talk about your little life inside in a welcoming way. The bond between mother and baby starts from the moment of conception and the relationship between you and your little one has already begun formulation when the birth into the world happens. I teach prenatal yoga and have two of my own children, and I really believe that the mother’s relationship with her baby starts from the moment of conception. Your thoughts are their thoughts; your words are their words. So watch what you say because they are listening. Let that little life inside know they are loved daily, that you can’t wait to meet them, and that they will be loved. All pregnancies are different and some have to make the hard decision to give the baby up for adoption; regardless, that little life still disserves the right to feel welcomed and nurtured. Why should it be any different from what I tell my non-mommy-to-be yogis that “what you say is what becomes your reality”, and what you say becomes your baby’s reality.To view the rest of this feature post by Hope Zvara visit MindBodyGreen.com